Why You Can't Change Anyone

hello@bill.dev (Bill) — Fri, 10 Apr 2026 08:46:02 +0800

Over on her Substack my friend Alicia writes about the quiet, often overlooked parts of being human. Her recent article Why You Can’t Change Anyone resonates with my own experiences supporting people in their tech careers.

I’ve always felt uncomfortable at the thought of advising others. Throughout my 13 years in consulting, the idea of offering advice from a position of ignorance always felt odd. I do agree that an outside perspective can be useful but all too often there is an expectation to associate the role with expertise, experience or knowledge. This was a mistake. The only way I knew how to approach consulting was from a place of discovery. The job as I saw it was more to listen and observe than it was to act.

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Why You Can't Change Anyone